At times it might appear that I have it all together but that couldn’t be further from the truth. I’m just a hot mess that’s winging it everyday.
Life. Motherhood. Everything. I have no clue what I’m doing most days but thankfully it’s all working out. 😝
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HOT MESS MONDAY:
That’s me today…well everyday! I should just introduce myself and say, “Hi! I’m Ashley and I’m a hot mess!” That way people can give me grace instantly. 🙈
But seriously, am I the only hot mess? Are you insane like me?
–> I’m always in a rush (today I took the wrong kid to the wrong school at the wrong time)
–> I’m always juggling a million things (and dropping the ball on a lot)
–> I usually look like a hot mess (Hello messy bun, unwashed hair and no makeup)
–> Chaos is my middle name!
Rejoice, my dear sweet hot mess homey! Chaos looks beautiful on you! 😘
You carry the world on your shoulders and if that’s not enough, you pick up some heavy guilt along the way. It’s a heavy load with your own expectations to be everything to everyone. You feel guilty that you’re not good enough, not around enough, not doing enough. You want to be the perfect mama to your amazing kids.
Stop. Just stop.
It’s okay to take a moment and nurture your soul. It’s okay to want time away from your family. It’s perfectly normal to feel like you’re going insane.
Give yourself grace and let go of the mama guilt. Guilt has no space in the place of grace. Embrace rest, take care of yourself and let go of all of the feelings that don’t serve you.
You are the mama your kids need and you are enough.
A mama that’s tired of carrying around guilt
Some days…who am I kidding, most days my life is pure chaos. I don’t know if I’m coming or going, I’m rushing around and trying to do it all.
Between homework, activities, work, life, laundry and everything else that goes with being a mom it’s easy to lose sight of the joy.
Embrace the chaos and find the glory. It might be hidden under some laundry but it’s there.
You’ll find it in the stolen kisses before bedtime, the quick moments of kids playing together, the frenzied dance parties and in the glorious mess.
Yesterday I set a big goal for myself that’s really, really scary. I call it a BIG HAIRY AUDACIOUS GOAL and when I think about it it makes me have butterflies in my stomach.
Is there a chance that I might fail? Uh huh!
Is it going to take a lot of work? Of course!
Does it feel next to impossible? Yes
Is it worth trying for? ABSOLUTELY!
Even if I fail, I will have pushed myself, grown and taken chances I wouldn’t have if I didn’t even try at all.
Do you have a big dream too? GO FOR IT!! Even if you fall short you’ll still have done some amazing things and landed among the stars!
I remember this day like it was yesterday because my emotions were all over the place. We were leaving Arizona and heading back to Washington…for good. I had been away from home for 13.5 years and I dreamed of coming back. But I was so scared to leave our life of Air Force stability. It was all I had known and the thought of not having a steady paycheck each month scared me so much. We were jumping into the unknown and I wasn’t ready to live outside of my comfort zone. I wanted to cling to our old life.
To be honest, my emotions were all over the place for the first 9 months of being back in Washington. I was so glad to be back home but life didn’t fall into place like I dreamed it would. We didn’t buy a house, we weren’t living in the right school district and D didn’t find a job right away. It was hard and I often found myself dreaming of our old life and wishing for the stability I loved so much.
I was filled with bitterness and it wasn’t until I let got of it that I truly started to blossom. I learned that I had to stop looking back and prosper where I was planted. I had to learn to survive in the place I felt completely uncomfortable and in doing that I started to thrive.
This experience in life has taught me that great things can come from unexpected places. Because of this life of instability, I have found myself with an amazing opportunity to help others while helping my family earn an income. I have found my passion and my career and I wouldn’t have found it if we hadn’t have left our old life.
Change can be scary but sometimes it’s exactly what we need to grow.
Confession: I’m a hot mess.
Sometimes I’m a crazy lunatic in front of my kids.
Sometimes we have cereal for dinner.
Sometimes I don’t have time to shower and I wear pajamas in public.
Sometimes the laundry doesn’t get put away for awhile.
Sometimes life is hectic and homework gets forgotten.
I don’t have it all together and I’m completely okay with it.
If I had to guess, I bet you’re a hot mess too
Being a mom is hard.
Being the mom you think your kids deserve is even harder.
Here’s the truth, I have realized something in myself that I absolutely hate. I constantly say to my kids, “Hurry Up!” or “We don’t have time for this!” as we go through our daily routine. Usually it is something that’s yelled at them as they get ready for school, ask for help or as they’re doing anything else that slows me down from my ever growing to do list.
I am rushing my kids through their life and sending the message to them that their life isn’t worth enjoying. Gah. Talk about a thought that makes me sober up and want to change.
I’m thankful I have 3 amazing kids who show me more grace than I deserve. I want my kids to leave my presence filled with peace, love and not be filled with the echoes of my frustrations. It’s not their fault that my schedule is packed and my to do list is long.
I’m a work in progress as a mom and this is my biggest struggle. I am going to work on it and do my best to slow down, enjoy the moments and not tell my kids that “We don’t have time for this” because I can make the time.