Life, it can pack up a punch sometimes, right? You wake up with determination and before you know it the day runs you over and you’re just trying to stay on your feet.
–> You might be holding some lottery tickets that didn’t pan out.
–> You might be fighting with loved ones or friends.
–> You might have had the best of intentions to stay positive but the day ran you over.
–> You might be struggling to find the sun through the clouds.
–> You might be dealing with sickness.
–> You might be working at the worst job ever.
You’re facing something hard right now, I know it.
But listen to me, every little thing is going to be okay. It might not all come together today, tomorrow or this week but it will all be okay.
We had been out of the Air Force for 6 months and things were still a mess. Everything about our future was uncertain. I was filled with fear and scared.
But in my heart I knew that that’s not how my story would end. In my darkest moments I clung to the hope that I had the power to change our ending.
–> I got up everyday and worked through my fears.
–> I wiped my tears and poured my heart into my business.
–> I used my story to help inspire others.
–> I showed up when it was hard and didn’t back down.
–> I never, ever gave up.
Looking back, I know that those hard times were put in my path to shape who I am today. I’ve learned more about myself, refined my vision for my life and grown into who I needed to be to make my dreams come true.
Here’s the truth: You might be going through some crazy dark moments and life might feel impossible. The burden’s you’re carrying feel so heavy and you have no idea how you’ll make it through. But that was how I felt last year too and I made it out. So will you. Keep believing, keep trusting and never lose hope. You can change your ending. Just have the faith, it all comes together when it’s supposed to.
That’s me today…well everyday! I should just introduce myself and say, “Hi! I’m Ashley and I’m a hot mess!” That way people can give me grace instantly. 🙈
But seriously, am I the only hot mess? Are you insane like me?
–> I’m always in a rush (today I took the wrong kid to the wrong school at the wrong time)
–> I’m always juggling a million things (and dropping the ball on a lot)
–> I usually look like a hot mess (Hello messy bun, unwashed hair and no makeup)
–> Chaos is my middle name!
Rejoice, my dear sweet hot mess homey! Chaos looks beautiful on you! 😘
Monday has such a bad reputation. It’s the most hated day of the week. And this Monday, the first after a holiday…dreaded. No one wants to go back to work or school and face another week full of long days before another weekend.
Today I challenge you to flip your stance on Monday. Don’t fear Monday, embrace it. Monday is a chance to have a new start. Whatever happened last week is now behind you and there is a brand new week in front of you. Step into your routine with a smile instead of a grimace.
–> Change the way you look at Monday and maybe Monday won’t be so bad after all!
What are you doing today that is going to start your week off great?
I remember this day like it was yesterday because my emotions were all over the place. We were leaving Arizona and heading back to Washington…for good. I had been away from home for 13.5 years and I dreamed of coming back. But I was so scared to leave our life of Air Force stability. It was all I had known and the thought of not having a steady paycheck each month scared me so much. We were jumping into the unknown and I wasn’t ready to live outside of my comfort zone. I wanted to cling to our old life.
To be honest, my emotions were all over the place for the first 9 months of being back in Washington. I was so glad to be back home but life didn’t fall into place like I dreamed it would. We didn’t buy a house, we weren’t living in the right school district and D didn’t find a job right away. It was hard and I often found myself dreaming of our old life and wishing for the stability I loved so much.
I was filled with bitterness and it wasn’t until I let got of it that I truly started to blossom. I learned that I had to stop looking back and prosper where I was planted. I had to learn to survive in the place I felt completely uncomfortable and in doing that I started to thrive.
This experience in life has taught me that great things can come from unexpected places. Because of this life of instability, I have found myself with an amazing opportunity to help others while helping my family earn an income. I have found my passion and my career and I wouldn’t have found it if we hadn’t have left our old life.
Change can be scary but sometimes it’s exactly what we need to grow.
Do you ever compare yourself to others? Does it seem like everyone has the “perfect life” and you feel like a mess?
Well, let me tell you, my life is a hot mess. I’m blessed with many imperfections that make me who I am. I fall short of who I hope to be everyday. I lose my patience and yell a lot. I don’t always show love to those who need it most. I can be quick to judge and unforgiving. I’m impatient and constantly telling my kids to hurry up. I’ve weathered serious storms in my marriage. I’ve lost close friends and fought with family. I’ve failed at many things. I’ve been imperfect, a lot.
Why do I share this? Because you need to know that when you struggle you’re not alone. Everyone is fighting a battle behind the scenes. What looks perfect from the outside, might be falling apart inside. When you scroll through Facebook or look at your friends lives and see perfection, remember you’re only seeing a small glimpse of their story.
Not everyone want’s to share their imperfections and that’s okay. But the more we share our truth, the more we realize that we’re not alone in our imperfection.
Perfection is overrated anyways. Life is about grace and love. Never giving up and fighting through hard times.