At times it might appear that I have it all together but that couldn’t be further from the truth. I’m just a hot mess that’s winging it everyday.
Life. Motherhood. Everything. I have no clue what I’m doing most days but thankfully it’s all working out. 😝
#truth #hotmess #fakeituntilyoumakeit #perfectionisoverrated
HOT MESS MONDAY:
That’s me today…well everyday! I should just introduce myself and say, “Hi! I’m Ashley and I’m a hot mess!” That way people can give me grace instantly. 🙈
But seriously, am I the only hot mess? Are you insane like me?
–> I’m always in a rush (today I took the wrong kid to the wrong school at the wrong time)
–> I’m always juggling a million things (and dropping the ball on a lot)
–> I usually look like a hot mess (Hello messy bun, unwashed hair and no makeup)
–> Chaos is my middle name!
Rejoice, my dear sweet hot mess homey! Chaos looks beautiful on you! 😘
You carry the world on your shoulders and if that’s not enough, you pick up some heavy guilt along the way. It’s a heavy load with your own expectations to be everything to everyone. You feel guilty that you’re not good enough, not around enough, not doing enough. You want to be the perfect mama to your amazing kids.
Stop. Just stop.
It’s okay to take a moment and nurture your soul. It’s okay to want time away from your family. It’s perfectly normal to feel like you’re going insane.
Give yourself grace and let go of the mama guilt. Guilt has no space in the place of grace. Embrace rest, take care of yourself and let go of all of the feelings that don’t serve you.
You are the mama your kids need and you are enough.
A mama that’s tired of carrying around guilt
Some days…who am I kidding, most days my life is pure chaos. I don’t know if I’m coming or going, I’m rushing around and trying to do it all.
Between homework, activities, work, life, laundry and everything else that goes with being a mom it’s easy to lose sight of the joy.
Embrace the chaos and find the glory. It might be hidden under some laundry but it’s there.
You’ll find it in the stolen kisses before bedtime, the quick moments of kids playing together, the frenzied dance parties and in the glorious mess.
I remember this day like it was yesterday because my emotions were all over the place. We were leaving Arizona and heading back to Washington…for good. I had been away from home for 13.5 years and I dreamed of coming back. But I was so scared to leave our life of Air Force stability. It was all I had known and the thought of not having a steady paycheck each month scared me so much. We were jumping into the unknown and I wasn’t ready to live outside of my comfort zone. I wanted to cling to our old life.
To be honest, my emotions were all over the place for the first 9 months of being back in Washington. I was so glad to be back home but life didn’t fall into place like I dreamed it would. We didn’t buy a house, we weren’t living in the right school district and D didn’t find a job right away. It was hard and I often found myself dreaming of our old life and wishing for the stability I loved so much.
I was filled with bitterness and it wasn’t until I let got of it that I truly started to blossom. I learned that I had to stop looking back and prosper where I was planted. I had to learn to survive in the place I felt completely uncomfortable and in doing that I started to thrive.
This experience in life has taught me that great things can come from unexpected places. Because of this life of instability, I have found myself with an amazing opportunity to help others while helping my family earn an income. I have found my passion and my career and I wouldn’t have found it if we hadn’t have left our old life.
Change can be scary but sometimes it’s exactly what we need to grow.
Confession: I’m a hot mess.
Sometimes I’m a crazy lunatic in front of my kids.
Sometimes we have cereal for dinner.
Sometimes I don’t have time to shower and I wear pajamas in public.
Sometimes the laundry doesn’t get put away for awhile.
Sometimes life is hectic and homework gets forgotten.
I don’t have it all together and I’m completely okay with it.
If I had to guess, I bet you’re a hot mess too
Moms: Can you relate…It’s the weekend and…
–> Your to do list a mile long?
–> You’re drowning in chores?
–> It feels like you’ve been running around like a crazy person since the weekend started?
STOP!! Just…take a breath and STOP!!
Today I challenge you to let go of your responsibilities and REST. Put your feet up, cuddle with your kids, read a book, take a bath or do something that makes you feel recharged.
The week starts all over tomorrow and I promise the world won’t stop if you take a few moments today to rest and recharge.
Being a mom is hard.
Being the mom you think your kids deserve is even harder.
Here’s the truth, I have realized something in myself that I absolutely hate. I constantly say to my kids, “Hurry Up!” or “We don’t have time for this!” as we go through our daily routine. Usually it is something that’s yelled at them as they get ready for school, ask for help or as they’re doing anything else that slows me down from my ever growing to do list.
I am rushing my kids through their life and sending the message to them that their life isn’t worth enjoying. Gah. Talk about a thought that makes me sober up and want to change.
I’m thankful I have 3 amazing kids who show me more grace than I deserve. I want my kids to leave my presence filled with peace, love and not be filled with the echoes of my frustrations. It’s not their fault that my schedule is packed and my to do list is long.
I’m a work in progress as a mom and this is my biggest struggle. I am going to work on it and do my best to slow down, enjoy the moments and not tell my kids that “We don’t have time for this” because I can make the time.
It’s easy to forget how precious life is when I’m going from one day to the next in constant chaos. I’m guilty of saying, “When all of my work is done, we can (insert some awesome family fun adventure).” or “If I could just get caught up with my chores, we can relax and be together”
But I’m losing days just waiting for the perfect moment to appear and for my “to do list” to magically disappear. The truth is, there is no perfect moment to enjoy life. I must simply embrace the chaos and enjoy each day. Walk away from the chores, turn off the phone and just be.
Do you know how hard this is for me? It doesn’t come naturally to me at all. But my kids are growing too quickly and if I’m not careful I’ll wake up one day and it will be over. It’s my goal to enjoy the gift of every chaotic day. Every day might not be perfect but there is perfect moments in each day.
What do you see when you look in the mirror?
–> Are you seeing a distorted image of who you are?
–> Are you seeing only flaws and imperfections?
–> Are you comparing yourself to everyone?
Here’s some truth: YOU ARE BEAUTIFUL JUST THE WAY YOU ARE!!
Stop talking to yourself negatively.
Stop beating yourself up for not being a certain weight or size.
Stop being so hard on yourself.
Love yourself where you are today, even if you want to change. It’s impossible to reach new goals if you’re constantly berating yourself for who you are today.
YOU ARE BEAUTIFUL.
Repeat after me: YOU ARE BEAUTIFUL