Sometimes being a mom sucks.
There, I said it.
I don’t know why I put so much pressure on myself to love every minute of motherhood. But the truth is, not every moment is awesome. A lot of the time being a mother sucks.
I live in a constant state of chaos. There is usually a mess somewhere, someone is usually having a grumpy day (and they take turns and change it up), someone always wants a snack and I never get to bathe or pee alone. Dirty laundry and dirty dishes multiply like rabbits. Plus, I’m exhausted at the end of everyday and I usually feel like I’m screwing them up.
But through the chaos and through all the crappy moments, it really is the best job in the world. It’s okay to not love every moment because the moments that matter make up for all the moments that suck.
If you would have asked me one year ago if I truly believed in my ability to make my BIG DREAMS come true I would have told you I didn’t.
You see, one year ago we had just moved to Washington and our life was a complete disaster. All of the stability I had grown so used to had disappeared when D left active duty. We were in a place that scared me. We didn’t have a home, we didn’t have jobs and we didn’t know what our future would hold. All of those life changes knocked me down and filled me with so much fear.
I knew I needed to help my family financially but I didn’t want to go back to work and leave my kids. I needed something that would let me put my family first because sacrificing them wasn’t something I was willing to do.
It was in those dark moments that I decided I would do everything I could to grow my Beachbody business. I was scared because I had been a coach for 18 months and hadn’t had any success. I felt scared to jump back into it because I was afraid people would judge me. I had a million excuses to why it wouldn’t work but I did it anyways.
It’s been one year since I made that decision and our circumstance aren’t perfect. This last year has been very hard on me. We still don’t have the stability I crave. The fears I have about our future still creep into my brain but I’m fighting with everything I can to give us stability.
While our circumstances haven’t changed completely, I have changed. I have grown more in the last year and my belief in my ability to make my dreams come true is strong.
On year ago I made a dream board and one of the things I dreamt of is coming true today. I wanted to create a team of coaches and go to summit. Over the last year I have created a team of 35 personally sponsored coaches and I’m going to summit today! I will be in Nashville with 25,000 other coaches. I will be recognized on stage for my accomplishments in the last year and I can’t even believe it. I feel so blessed to have this opportunity and a year ago I wouldn’t have even believed it was possible.
Even when you’re scared and filled with fear, you have to be brave with your life.
Are you prepared to make today a great day?
I’m so happy and thankful today because…
–> Football is back…Go Hawks!
–> Game day = run day.
–> My kids are happy and healthy.
–> My hubby is faithful and has been so patient dealing with me.
–> My team is helping so many people and I’m so proud
What are you happy and thankful for today?
You might be going through a hard time and it might seem impossible to think of others in your own storm. It’s so easy to wallow in your own self pity. It’s easy to think you’re the only one that has a hard life. It’s easy to think that you’re the only one who is struggling.
But the truth: everyone is facing struggles and everyone feels alone sometimes.
Shine bright, even in your storm.
Shine bright, even when you feel like you can’t make it anymore.
Shine bright, because someone is in desperate need of your sunshine.
Shine bright, the storm will pass.
Your body is an amazing thing and you need to respect it by feeding it healthy food, taking care of it with exercise and loving it where it is today. Even if you’re not at your goal you need to love your body for all that it is today. Your body is doing amazing things for you as you work towards your goals.
My focus this week…
–> Strong workouts
–> Feeding my body with healthy food
–> Keeping my mind positive
–> Letting go of things out of my control
What is your goal this week?
I woke up this morning to discover that our shed had been broken into and our weed eater and lawnmower had been stolen.
The first thing I said to myself was, “Why does this keep happening to us” and I don’t have an answer. Bad things happen to good people all the time and good things happen to bad people too. The world isn’t fair. It’s as simple as that.
I can’t control this situation or this unfair world but I can control my attitude. Each day brings a new obstacle and the only thing I can do is focus on the good.
–> My family is safe.
–> It could have been worse, a lot worse.
–> A lawn mower and weed eater are replaceable.
–> The world is full of amazing people
I could let this situation change my attitude about people but it won’t. I still believe that there is good in this world, despite being robbed twice in the last 6 months.
Be an amazing light in someones life today. Your kindness might be what they need today in this unfair world.
I love when I’m reading a book and out of nowhere I’m hit with a #truthbomb. Something that truly makes me think about how I’ve been living and realizing I had been getting it all wrong.
I try to remain positive and happy all the time. But the reality is that life is hard and sometimes I can slip into old habits of “woe is me” and complain…a lot. A LOT.
From Do Over by Jon Acuff, “Feelings are the flightiest things in the world, held to the whimsy of a thousand factors. Feelings will tell you the day is ready ruined because you woke up on the wrong side of the bed or had a bad commute that morning. Don’t listen to feelings. Make choices. Today, choose a good attitude. This is the one thing you can do right this minute to actually shock your boss, improve your work relationships and dramatically increase your long term odds of an awesome career.”
Life doesn’t have to be perfect to be happy. There are a million reasons to choose to be happy. It’s all about how you look at it, right?
Don’t let a bad day make you feel like you have a bad life. Bad days are going to happen to all of us. It’s how you handle the bad days that’s important.
Whenever I am having a bad day I think to myself, “There are people in this world who have to walk miles and miles to get water everyday. I just turn on my tap and that stuff just flows out. They’d switch places with me in a heart beat to have my “bad day”.”
Sometimes all I need is a little perspective to realize my bad day isn’t as bad as I’m letting myself believe it is.
The best project that you will ever work on is YOU!
A few years ago I would have read that and laughed. I thought my family was the best project I had and that they should get 100% of my attention. I thought that to be a “good” wife and mother I needed to be self sacrificing. I was giving my family every ounce of me and was left feeling empty inside.
After feeling empty for awhile I woke up one day and realized the only person who was going to take care of me was me! It was my responsibility to make sure I did things that fed my soul. I started to run and take time for me. Do you know what I realized? When I started taking time for myself and working on me, I became a better wife and mother.
Take care of you, do things that feed your soul and work on becoming the best you that you can be and I promise everyone around you will benefit!