Have you ever tried to make a change in your life and everyone around you turned into an instant critic or hater?
–> You start working on your health someone is trying to sabotage you with cheat meals or telling you that you look fine the way you are.
–> You start to save money and others around you are talking trash and giving you a hard time for not going out with them or buying stuff to keep up with them.
–> You set boundaries for your life and everyone you know is doing all they can to stomp all over them.
Haters: They’re everywhere.
Do you know why they start to attack you when you’re trying to make changes in your life? It’s because you’ve stepped outside the status quo and have become a huge mirror, reflecting the changes they might need to make but don’t want to. It’s easier to hate on you than change.
It might look like they’re resentful of you but the truth is they’re resentful of themselves.
Don’t let all of those haters tell you what’s possible for your life…let their hate fuel you and find out what you’re made of!
I had a reality check this morning when I stepped on the scale. I had gained 7 pounds in 3 weeks and my first reaction was to beat myself up. I fall into old habits quickly and for most of my life I have hated myself and never felt like I was good enough.
But then I thought, what would I tell my friend if she were in my shoes this morning. I’d say, “Give yourself some grace.”
The truth is, I’ve been fighting through some depression this summer. I normally love to exercise and my eating isn’t always perfect but I can usually keep it good for 90% of the time. But lately, it’s been a free for all on food and zero exercise. I’ve been letting my emotions control all of my actions. I’ve been a mess and I can’t take it anymore.
All of this ends today. I need to find me again. It’s not about the number on the scale but how I feel in my own skin. I want to feel confident and happy again. I want to be proud of my hard work.
Operation: Find Ashley Again is now in session.
I’ve heard it said so many times, don’t look back…you’re not going that way. I used to believe it too. But I’m learning that sometimes you have to look back so you can be reminded of how far you’ve come.
I have always been driven and determined when chasing my dreams. I set a vision and trudge forward, no matter what obstacle is put in my place. I have high expectations for myself and I am always my own worst critic.
I think these qualities are vital to my success but at times they can actually hurt me. My expectations of myself often push me so hard that I lose sight of how far I’ve come. I can only see how far I have still to go and it overwhelms me.
Sometimes there are obstacles that aren’t easy to overcome. It’s in those moments that the doubt can creep in and I start to think I’ll never make it. Today, I’m not looking forward, I’m looking back and remembering all that I have overcome. I’m hoping it will remind me of my strength to overcome all of the obstacles in my future.
It’s Monday and you know what that means?!? Time for my favorite workout rule…NEVER MISS A MONDAY!
It’s week 2 of Cize and the moves got a lot harder and I’m not quite as coordinated. No shame here, I had fun and got sweaty. That’s all that matters! I’m considering these my “before I learn to dance” videos. I figure I’ll have some amazing “I can move my ass” videos in a few more weeks
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Truth: I’ve been struggling to workout recently. I don’t know where my mojo is and I have just felt like I’ve been in a funk forever. Today, I decided I would no longer wait for it to kick in…I just did it anyways.
Sometimes you have to act your way into a feeling instead of waiting to feel like it. I’m so glad I pushed myself because I had so much fun.
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What do you see when you look in the mirror?
–> Are you seeing a distorted image of who you are?
–> Are you seeing only flaws and imperfections?
–> Are you comparing yourself to everyone?
Here’s some truth: YOU ARE BEAUTIFUL JUST THE WAY YOU ARE!!
Stop talking to yourself negatively.
Stop beating yourself up for not being a certain weight or size.
Stop being so hard on yourself.
Love yourself where you are today, even if you want to change. It’s impossible to reach new goals if you’re constantly berating yourself for who you are today.
YOU ARE BEAUTIFUL.
Repeat after me: YOU ARE BEAUTIFUL
If you have this idea in your head that I’m a fitness coach and I have a perfect diet…YOU ARE WRONG!!
I struggle just like everyone else. Sometimes that means I eat almond butter with a spoon and add chocolate chips to it.
Perfection is overrated and almond butter and chocolate are delicious together.
Workout Wednesday: Cize: The End of Exercise
Here’s the truth: when I heard about Cize I was skeptical. I didn’t plan on doing it because I’m not a dancer. I didn’t think it would be enough of a workout either.
BUT….I’m so glad I gave it a chance because this is the exact program I needed right now. First, I’m having so much fun. I was in such a workout funk and this program has me excited to “push play”. Second, it’s an amazing workout. I finish feeling absolutely amazing and completely drenched!
Bonus: I’m learning how to dance! Shaun T. breaks down all of the moves step by step and before I know it I’m doing a dance routine!
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While I was in Nashville I had the privilege of working out with Shaun T. Before we got started he talked about not just going through the movements of exercise but really focusing on something while you’re doing it.
My focus: to be strong, even when I don’t feel strong.
Watch Shaun T. and ask yourself, what is my focus?
Are you just going through the moves or are you focusing on your goals and inner strength?
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I think all too often we like to focus on just the physical transformation and today I would like to spotlight a new coach in my downline.
This is her transformation and in 21 days she changed her body on the outside, she lost 10 lbs and 10 inches, but more importantly she had an internal transformation as well. I had the pleasure of talking to her yesterday and I was absolutely blown away with her story.
Here is what she told me:
–> She’s no longer depressed or anxious.
–> She feels confident again and she hasn’t felt that way in years.
–> Two serious health issues, that she’s been dealing with for years are correcting themselves.
She followed the 21 Day Fix meal plan completely, did her workouts and drank Shakeology. Her life is completely different and the happiness I saw in her eyes was priceless!
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